Saying no to guilt. Saying yes to love.


Guilt just feels like declaring war on myself, and I am working too hard to be free from inner-conflict to declare a war. The guilt implies that I should be doing “it” differently than I’m doing it.  And those are the thoughts that trigger the guilty feelings, “you’re doing it wrong,” “you’re not doing it good enough, “you’re selfish for not trying hard enough to make everyone happy.” And those thoughts are oftentimes just under the surface of our awareness.

And so I transformed the feeling of guilt by changing the thoughts that were creating the guilty feelings! Instead of telling myself, that I was not doing it right, that I was bad for doing it how I was doing it, I began to tell myself that I was doing the best I could.

And that was true, it may not have been perfect, but it was the best I could do at that given moment. And my mood began to lighten. I stopped feeling trapped in my guilty feelings and condemning thoughts, and I felt light. I felt compassionate towards myself. I was doing the best that I could! And that was good enough. Loving myself today means saying no to guilt, and saying yes to self-acceptance and knowing that I am doing the best I can.